ME SO MUCH I used to have people in school assume I wasn't straight, which isn't bad at all, and the only reason it bothered me was because of why they were doing so. it wasn't because they thought I was attracted to women, it was because I wore emo clothes and grew out my eyebrows and liked certain music (I was actually told this a couple times).
I wouldn't have been upset if they genuinely thought I liked women due to the way I spoke of them or interacted with them, but it frustrated me that the only basis of their claims was that I didn't fit their requirements of heteronormative femininity! and it felt dismissive to my friends who were bisexual, lesbian, gay, because their hearts were more than the way they dressed or did their hair
ME SO MUCH I used to have people in school assume I wasn't straight, which isn't bad at all, and the only reason it bothered me was because of why they were doing so. it wasn't because they thought I was attracted to women, it was because I wore emo clothes and grew out my eyebrows and liked certain music (I was actually told this a couple times).
I wouldn't have been upset if they genuinely thought I liked women due to the way I spoke of them or interacted with them, but it frustrated me that the only basis of their claims was that I didn't fit their requirements of heteronormative femininity! and it felt dismissive to my friends who were bisexual, lesbian, gay, because their hearts were more than the way they dressed or did their hair
the laurie and jo cover photo is so perfect for this. great piece!! i can relate!!